the byers-hoppers were seriously destined to be a family like it’s about all of them being very broken people and then it’s el coming into hopper’s life as a second chance for him to be a father after he lost sara, el finding a dad who only cares about her safety and happiness unlike “papa” who called her his daughter but really only used her for her powers, joyce becoming a mom to el who was taken away from her real mother, will and jonathan getting a father figure who is always supportive and cares for them unlike their abusive biological father who left them, willel being undeniably connected in so many ways the entire series and becoming siblings, joyce and hopper finally finding love in each other after their divorces and their relationship had been built up since high school, etc etc. basically all of them giving each other the love that they either lost or never had from painful relationships from their past
no eddie graduating. no eddie meeting jonathan and argyle and getting high with them. no eddie bonding with will and taking him under his wing. no eddie bothering steve and robin at their job. no eddie.
I was rewatching s1, and I came to the scene where Joyce is telling Hopper that Will is missing, and I finally understood what’s going on in the scene.
She’s not telling Hopper that her son is sensitive and people call him gay to let Hop know he’s fragile and can’t protect himself.
She’s telling Hopper that her gay 12 year old is missing and she’s worried he’s been the victim of a hate crime
i hope we choose love: a trans girl’s notes from the end of the world, kai cheng thom
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So in the midst of despair, I have come to believe that love–the feeling of love, the politics of love, the ethics and ideology and embodiment of love–is the only good option in this time of the apocalypse. What else do we have?
I want to live in love and believe in love. If I have to die, I want to die in love. This whole world might be coming to its end, or it might be int he midst of an enormous and terrifying change that leads to something better. Either way, I want to go through it in love with the people I love.
So this is a book about love. This is a book about revolutionary love. Love that might not save us at the end of the world but that might make it possible to live through. It might be hard to believe in. it will be harder to live. I hope we choose it anyway.
In love that never dies, Kai Cheng Thom, April 2019
yk when someone’s telling a joke but they keep stopping because they’re laughing too hard and then you start laughing even though you don’t know what for or why…..love
coming to realize for me growing up is just more and more growing into the understanding and compassion to leave people be. nothing is about you. everyone is communicating their own projections and working through things and coming into their own understanding. it’s a projection and you can extend your own grace to people to work through and grow at their own pace and just mindfully accept them where they’re at just like you’d want other people to do for you. it has nothing to do with you. you don’t have to always make it a fight, because it’s not an attack. their outlook says nothing about you and there’s no reason to be defensive. you can be secure and grounded in yourself. get to point where you can trust in your own self and the people around and that you care about to understand as well. it’s letting go. giving up the struggle because you’re solid in your self. turning away from the instinct to project.
